Ok

After seeing the lovely robes on Katies site I got a bee in my bonnet that I also wanted something pretty like that. So I started to hunt for something. Lets just say I found nothing, & believe me I hunted all over South Africa. There was on place in Benoni but I did not like there stuff. So I moved on to plane B….. Look for patterns.

Now it’s not like you can find it under Pagan dress, nooo that would make it way to easy. So I started hunting under the costume section…. & boy did I find some lovely patterns.

Now my sewing skills are not so hot But I am willing to give it a try. So I have managed to find a friends mother who will be my lifeline should I mess up. I was going to post the pics of the patterns but my gallery was bitching at me & would only allow be to put one pic up.



On the kids front:

Vincent never got to spend last Sunday with his son as the ex changed her mind again, he was very disappointed.

Daniel has announced that he has a new girlfriend… too cute.

Keira is full of flu so is rather grumpy with life at the moment.

Steffy is teething night before last she was up every 2 hours, there was a time when I contemplated sleeping outside in the dog kennel for peace & quiet, just a pity it was a little chilly. Last night was a much better night.


Steffy in the wash basket ... Vincent put her in it.

This is going to be a tough evening, as I have just found out my 14 year old is smoking & he openly admits he has been doing it for about a year. Yeah that’s right from around the time I started work.

This is how I got to find out about it. Vincent called saying that someone had helped themselves to his smokes. Now both he & I know that DH does not smoke his brand & would not be caught dead smoking his brand. Vincent said he spoke to Daniel about it who openly admitted that he has taken a smoke or 2 out of Vincent boxes if they were lying around.

Any how I had a melt down as he is way to young to be smoking as it is I am trying to help Vincent quit.

My problem is how can I be mad at him if his brother does it? I honestly have no idea how to handle this. * sigh*

Ok, here it goes, this will be an update on everything including the adoption.

Adoption:

Things here are very quiet we are waiting for the mothers 60 days to withdraw consent to expire, this happens on the 20th of May.

We are also waiting for a copy of her marriage Certificate so that we can trace her estranged husband to get an affidavit saying that he is not the child’s father & that he gives consent for the adoption.

I must admit I am a bit worried about this as what will happen if he decides he wants the Steffy.

This is th reason why I am a bit worried:

You see in African culture a man has to pay “Lobola” to the parents of his future wife before he can marry .

The custom of lobola, that is handing over cattle to the father of the bride as compensation for the ‘loss’ of his daughter, is still common to all the black peoples of southern Africa.  The number of cattle so handed over for a prospective bride will depend on her marriage ability, and a suitor could give upwards of 20 cattle for the daughter of a chief or a girl of similar social standing, while the average family could ask for four or five animals.  Sometimes the consideration handed may also include other livestock such as a horse, household items or blankets, or any other items on which the parties might agree.  The arrangements are made between the families of the prospective spouses, and a girl might in fact not even know she is about to be married.

Of interest is the fact that despite the migration of rural blacks to suburban townships in modern times, the custom of lobola has not disappeared but continues in these areas just as it does in the country.  It is so firmly rooted in black society and so greatly valued for the protection it offers the bride that it is almost certain to remain as an important social custom for the foreseeable future.

In the townships it is usually not a viable proposition to pay the lobola in cattle, so the amount is set in rands.  The average rate is R400.00, though much more will be handed over for a particularly eligible bride.  In deciding lobola in the townships, much emphasis is placed on the degree of education of the prospective bride.

 

I have spoken to the Social worker & we are going to wait until after the 60 days have passed before we push the issue further.

We went to court & have done the formal application for adoption, I must admit that I am not expecting this adoption to go though quickly.

Grandbaby:

He is doing great we will be baby sitting him while his mom goes to a wedding on Sunday. She is dropping him off with us at around 13:30 & has said that she will be picking up rather late. Believe me his father has no problems with this as it gives him precious time with his son.

 

That’s all the news I have for now… sorry its not much.

Dr. Van Der Merwe (Van) wanted to go hunting, he calls his Assistant Koos and tells him

"Hey Koos, I am going hunting tomorrow, we don't want to close the clinic, I ask you to take care of our patients".

"Yes, Van..." answers Koos.

The doctor goes hunting and returns the next day and asks: "So Koos, how was your day?"

Koos tells him he took care of 3 patients.

The first one had a headache so I gave him TYLENOL.
"Great Koos, and the second one?" says Van.

"The second one had stomach burning and I gave him MAALOX , Dr," says Koos

"Wow Koos you're good at this and what about the third one?" asks Van.

"Holy cow, I was sitting and suddenly the door opens and a woman enters like a flame, she undresses herself, taking off her bra and her panties and lies on the table and shouts: HELP ME! For 5 years I have not seen a man!!!!!"

And what did you do Koos???" asks Van...

" I put eye drops in her eyes!!!!"

This has got to be one of the cleverest
E-mails I've received in a while.

Someone out there either has too much spare time or is deadly at Scrabble.
(Wait till you see the last one)!

DORMITORY:
When you rearrange the letters:
DIRTY ROOM

PRESBYTERIAN:
When you rearrange the letters:
BEST IN PRAYER

ASTRONOMER:
When you rearrange the letters:
MOON STARER

DESPERATION:
When you rearrange the letters:
A ROPE ENDS IT

THE EYES:
When you rearrange the letters:
THEY SEE

GEORGE BUSH:
When you rearrange the letters:
HE BUGS GORE

THE MORSE CODE:
When you rearrange the letters:
HERE COME DOTS

SLOT MACHINES:
When you rearrange the letters:
CASH LOST IN ME

ANIMOSITY:
When you rearrange the letters:
IS NO AMITY

ELECTION RESULTS:
When you rearrange the letters:
LIES - LET'S RECOUNT

SNOOZE ALARMS:
When you rearrange the letters:
ALAS! NO MORE Z 'S

A DECIMAL POINT:
When you rearrange the letters:
IM A DOT IN PLACE

THE EARTHQUAKES:
When you rearrange the letters:
THAT QUEER SHAKE

ELEVEN PLUS TWO:
When you rearrange the letters:
TWELVE PLUS ONE

AND FOR THE GRAND FINALE:

MOTHER-IN-LAW:
When you rearrange the letters:
WOMAN HITLER