THE SCAREY PART OF THIS IS THAT THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WE GOT BOTH STEFFY & KEIRA FROM

Official ‘sold baby for R1,500’
MONICA LAGANPARSAD Published:Jul 10, 2007

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A DURBAN social worker is facing charges of kidnapping and corruption after allegedly selling a three-month-old baby boy to a Lamontville woman.

The social worker, who is expected to appear in the Durban Magistrate’s Court soon, was arrested on Friday morning.

She was employed by the Durban Children’s Society and it is alleged that she was paid R1,500 for the baby.

Allegations that she back-dated foster-care grants are also under investigation.

Shelagh Hurford, executive director of the society, said: “We view the allegations in an extremely serious light

My little lady is getting so big she has started walking with us holding her hands. I stands up against things holding on with only one hand.
I can verify her teeth are really sharp especially when she is trying to sample a piece of mommy. (ouch)


I love her smile!

I am sitting here feeling really sorry for myself. I miss VJ awfully I miss his untidiness & his laugh hell I just miss him being here.
I know I should be greatful that I know exactly where he is & that he is safe even though I do not approve of what he has decided.

The girls are doing well Steffy is a bit grumpy but I think its beacuse she is teething again.

Dan is taking Vj's move very badly i hope that this does not effect his scholing or push him to go back to smoking.

On the work front things are really tense. It is very difficult working for the same company as DH not that we have issues but for example one of the girls(my best friend) was going to resign, she told me about it before anyone else. I mentioned it to DH as I was worried about the work load that might be coming to me as I am barely copiing with my crrent work load. As it turned out the company made a counter offer & she is staying but this was not before DH mentioned it to some one else in the office & was over heard but another body who then told the CEO who was not aware of what was going on. So in short my best friend feels she cannot longer trust me, I feel that I can not trust DH & the company is questioning if they made the right descion to promote me (with not increase). Not sure how I should have handled this but I have screwed up prett badly.

It feels like that there is nothing I can do right at the moment as everthing I do seems to go bad.

I found this article today on www.news24.com & in my current frame of mind I fully agree with what is being said.

Doing it for the children
06/07/2007 08:21 - (SA)

Colleen Figg

Reading a blog today by a friend of mine about life in previous generations, I was strongly reminded of my Uncle Ted (now 77) and a conversation we had not so long ago when he was talking about his early love for cricket.

He said that as a young lad - part of an eight child family - if he wanted to play cricket he had to arrange his passage to the game plus the equipment he needed to play with. If that meant working cleaning brass at the local church, or weeding the neighbour's garden, he did it.

His parents were not expected to hang onto his every word about games he had played, would play or wanted to play, nor were they expected to indulge his whims and find a way to pay for a cricket bat, or shin pads.

Furthermore it was not even considered that they might appear on the sidelines shouting encouragement and making disparaging remarks about the opposition or the umpire's decisions.

Here, there and everywhere

My point here is that the children of today are over-indulged, over-understood and over-protected. They are not expected to work for what they want, nor pay for sports equipment they need.

Their parents are expected to ship them here, there and everywhere and they leap out of the car on arrival with nary a thank you nor any real feeling of gratitude. It is their right.

They are weak-willed, self-serving, materialistic, shallow, selfish, disrespectful, grabbing, forceful, money-orientated, ungrateful little beasts [on the whole]. And if this is how they are at ages 10 - 18 I fear, really I do, to wonder about the kind of adults they will grow into.

The real sad part here is that this is what we as parents have turned them into by making them unaccountable to authority (no more corporal punishment) and by buying or giving them everything they think they need. Every time we fold, in order to remain "popular", on an important matter of morals or ethics, we are compounding the problem.

Rose tinted specs

By worrying about possible "damage" we may do, we have become afraid to stamp our authority on the family group, so that our children are left without direction and without firm standards, ideals or sense of duty.

You've got children threatening to take their parents to court if their parents want to enforce any kind of discipline. You've got hooliganism and gangsterism in the classrooms, children laughing out loud at any attempts made to control them, loudly citing their "rights" as laid down in the Constitution of this and other countries. No one is teaching them about their obligations as citizens of this world.

I'm sure there will be a number of respondents who will wonder aloud what sort of children I know since theirs could never be anything like what I am describing here and to you in advance I say, "well done"; to the rest I say, "take off your rose tinted specs, before they get ripped from you and you have to face a reality you were part of wreaking".

This is a reality that cannot easily be undone.

Send your comments to Colleen.

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There are times in a parents life when you question if you are a crap parent, today is my day.

Vj went to his Gf for the afternoon yesterday with the strict instruction to home last night.

This morning I discovered he did not come home so being the parent I called him on his mobile to find it was off so I called the gf's mothers mobile whe i got hold of him I expalined to him that i was not a happy mother & why the HELL did he not call me. He tried to tell me my phone was off I pointed out that the home phone was one & so was DH's phone. I then proceded to tell him tht he had better be home by 9am at to expect all hell to break loose when I got home.

By 12 he still was not home & called me to tell me he was going to his grandparents for the night to which I said HELL NO & promptly call the grandfather (ex daddy in law) & told him VJ was not going anywhere as he did not have my consent to which I was informed that VJ was moving in with his aunt who lives 2 hours away & that there was I quote "nothing all I can do about it"as Vj was old enough to decide where he wants to live.

I also called the aunt & told her that did not want him living with her & that he was my son. Anyway the discussion was very heated but he said she would let VJ stay there if he wanted to & that there was nothing I could do about it.

So in short my son has moved out at the ripe old age of 17.... I refuse to pay for his upkeep in someone elses home.

And there is nothing I can do about it.

To add to this his ex is pissed off cus now he will not be visiting the GB. I told her that it was out on my hands & she need to speak to him about it. in the mean time I am still expected to pay for this child of his... whoopeee

thats my rant for the day.

On the advise of my mother I am not going to do anything but sit & wait to see what happens... believe me this is very hard for me as I am the doer... I make things happen... but for once in my life i have to agree with her & take the wait & see action.

I still question myself as a parent as i did everything for him even put my marriage on the line for him I guess i am an idiot for letting this child control me for so long.

Daniel is in a state, Keira keeps asking for him all is just so bloody dandy.



How can this child hurt me so much because he cannot live with the rules of the house.

I have no idea when he intends to see dylan again either but tht is between him & the ex I am no longer going to get involved.